Health professionals often witness a wide range of emotions in the delivery room, especially from dads and non-birthing partners. The first-time dad, visibly nervous, holding his partner’s hand through each contraction, offering words of encouragement and doing his best to stay calm. While he may not be the one in labour, his presence and support are just as vital in helping both the birthing parent and the newborn through this life-changing event.

In Australia, the role of non-birthing partners has evolved significantly. No longer just bystanders, they now play an active role in supporting their partner, offering both emotional reassurance and physical comfort. This article will explore how dads and non-birthing partners can best support their loved ones during labour and the early days of parenthood, and highlight the positive impact their involvement has on the overall experience.

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Non-birthing partners offer essential emotional support by acting as a calming influence, reducing anxiety, and reinforcing feelings of safety and trust. Their presence and reassuring words can help keep the birthing parent grounded, allowing them to focus on the task at hand. In fact, research shows that non-birthing partners who are actively involved in the labour process can positively influence the birthing experience. A study by the Australian College of Midwives (ACM) found that partners who provide continuous support during labour can help reduce the need for medical interventions, such as pain relief or cesarean sections, and increase overall satisfaction with the birth experience.

One of the most important ways to prepare birthing partners is through education. Attending antenatal classes together allows both to learn about the stages of labour, common interventions and pain relief options. Health professionals can also encourage non-birthing partners to be involved in creating a birth plan. This can include discussing preferences around pain relief, who will be present during the birth, and the type of atmosphere the birthing parent would prefer during labour. By taking part in these conversations, non-birthing partners can feel more confident and prepared. It also provides an opportunity to highlight their role in advocating for their partner’s wishes when the time comes.

When it comes to active labour, there are three types of support birth partners provide:

• Emotional support
• Physical support
• Advocation

When it comes to emotional support, encouraging words, gentle reminders to stay calm, and expressing reassurance can help the birthing parent manage anxiety and fear during intense moments. Health professionals can suggest that non-birthing partners remind their loved ones of their strength, encourage them to focus on breathing, and offer praise for their efforts. A simple “You’re doing great” or “I’m here with you” can make a world of difference. Partners should also be reminded to check in with the birthing parent throughout the process, making sure they’re comfortable and asking if there’s anything they need.

Physical support is equally important in providing relief during labour. Studies have shown that physical comfort measures, such as massage, counterpressure, and positioning changes, can reduce pain and help manage the intensity of contractions. Non-birthing partners can assist by offering lower back support, applying pressure to the hips or back, or helping the birthing parent shift positions. These simple actions can have a profound effect, especially when labour becomes long or particularly intense.

Health professionals can teach non-birthing partners techniques for providing physical relief, such as using a warm compress, applying counterpressure during contractions, or offering gentle back rubs. Encouraging movement, such as walking or swaying, can also help alleviate discomfort and promote labour progress.

It's also important to remind non-birthing partners to monitor their own energy levels. Labour can be a long process, and partners may need to take breaks to maintain their focus and strength. Health professionals can help partners anticipate their own fatigue and encourage them to stay hydrated and rest when possible.

The final important role that non-birthing partners play is advocating for the birthing parent's needs. Health professionals should encourage partners to feel empowered to communicate on behalf of the birthing parent when necessary, particularly if the birthing parent is too focused on the labour to express their needs. This may include asking for additional support, requesting pain relief, or simply ensuring that the birthing parent's preferences are respected.

Once the baby arrives, the non-birthing partner's role continues, shifting from labour support to helping with the transition into parenthood. The postpartum period can be physically and emotionally challenging for the birthing parent, and non-birthing partners are crucial in providing ongoing support.

After birth, the birthing parent may experience a range of emotions, from joy to exhaustion and even sadness. Non-birthing partners should be there to listen, reassure and offer comfort. Keeping communication open and acknowledging their partner's feelings can help them feel supported during this time. If either partner is struggling emotionally, it’s important to seek professional support. Non-birthing partners should be aware of the signs of postpartum depression and encourage their loved one to reach out for help if needed.

Ultimately, the birth journey is a shared experience. With the right tools and support, both the birthing parent and their non-birthing partner can feel supported, connected, and ready for the next chapter of parenthood. Health professionals play a crucial role in making this possible, and their guidance can make a world of difference in ensuring a positive, empowering experience for everyone involved.